Everyone waiting for friday cant wait to have their happy weekends. I've being very lazy for these few weeks. Bbbbrrrr..~~hepi tot heppi tot~~
Last tuesday I'd lunch out with Justin (thanks for your treat dude). Its been a while la not to see him (apsal tah ssh sgt nak jmp mamat neh). My close friend while we were in college. A lot of issues that we've discussed together. Since I were ready to end my single day i really want to find out more bout 'marital' relationship. I think I need to be firm and decisive by selecting my mate. Dont get me wrong I've no doubt with my sayang. He's a kind hearted-man, responsible person and bla bla.
Deciding on whom and when to marry and commiting yourself to a promarry relationship are significant life decision with long term consequences and should take it unlightly or made quickly or without careful consideration. It Shouldn't be guided by your feelings and emotion in making these decision because they are too misleading and narrowly focused. By all means consider all feelings, but be guided by your feelings and think bout the possibilities think when you'll be together. In order to have long term, fulfilling marital relationship you must be considerate , respectful and true to your spouse and yourself. Most of people understand that how they treat their partner is important, but they don't realise that how they treat themselves is equally important. It might be even more important.
Be direct, honest and respectful to other person and yourself, If you don't treat your partner right, you'll be paving a path that leads to problem and resentment, Don't let bother, upset, disappointment and little problems fester and turn to resentment or deppression in you. Be respectful of yourself and let your partner know what is important to you. If you avoid conflict you can't have a long term, fulfilling relationship.
its your life and you responsible for it. You've to be clear with yourself about what kind of life you ideally want based upon you needs and values and be active in trying to achive it. Also know what personality characteristics and values, you want your partner to have, your minimum requirements or what and how much of your ideal can do without and still be satisfied.
It takes long time to really get to know a person,. Don't be mislead by what you see in the beginning. When a relationship is new, people tend to be on their best behavior. A person maybe quite different after the relationship is established and has become ordinary and routine.
Don't make long term commitment during your first phase relationship. It is all right to commit yourself to spending more time with the person or to agree to be exclusive with the person while you are developing the relationship and getting to know each other better. However start to commit yourself to the person untill after the first phase passed and you are seeing each other more clearly.
If you are just nice, accomodating and agreeable with your partner, always going along with what your partner wants and never disagreeing or requiring your partner to accomodate you, you will unintentionally teach that person learn not to sensitive or respectful to you. Dissappointments, hurts, frustrations, irritation and anger will fester inside of you and eventually poison you to the relationship.
Your potential partner needs to get to know you, so be visible, open and honest yourself from the beginning. If you start a relationship hiding and pretending, you can't really trust and fully enjoy the relationship. You'll haunted by the fear that the person not like or accept you if he/she discover s what you really like and you will be insecure in the relationship. If you are open, honest and visible about who and how you are , some people will like you and some people will not. But the feelings towards you and acceptance of you by those who do like you will be solid and real.
Last tuesday I'd lunch out with Justin (thanks for your treat dude). Its been a while la not to see him (apsal tah ssh sgt nak jmp mamat neh). My close friend while we were in college. A lot of issues that we've discussed together. Since I were ready to end my single day i really want to find out more bout 'marital' relationship. I think I need to be firm and decisive by selecting my mate. Dont get me wrong I've no doubt with my sayang. He's a kind hearted-man, responsible person and bla bla.
Deciding on whom and when to marry and commiting yourself to a promarry relationship are significant life decision with long term consequences and should take it unlightly or made quickly or without careful consideration. It Shouldn't be guided by your feelings and emotion in making these decision because they are too misleading and narrowly focused. By all means consider all feelings, but be guided by your feelings and think bout the possibilities think when you'll be together. In order to have long term, fulfilling marital relationship you must be considerate , respectful and true to your spouse and yourself. Most of people understand that how they treat their partner is important, but they don't realise that how they treat themselves is equally important. It might be even more important.
Be direct, honest and respectful to other person and yourself, If you don't treat your partner right, you'll be paving a path that leads to problem and resentment, Don't let bother, upset, disappointment and little problems fester and turn to resentment or deppression in you. Be respectful of yourself and let your partner know what is important to you. If you avoid conflict you can't have a long term, fulfilling relationship.
its your life and you responsible for it. You've to be clear with yourself about what kind of life you ideally want based upon you needs and values and be active in trying to achive it. Also know what personality characteristics and values, you want your partner to have, your minimum requirements or what and how much of your ideal can do without and still be satisfied.
It takes long time to really get to know a person,. Don't be mislead by what you see in the beginning. When a relationship is new, people tend to be on their best behavior. A person maybe quite different after the relationship is established and has become ordinary and routine.
Don't make long term commitment during your first phase relationship. It is all right to commit yourself to spending more time with the person or to agree to be exclusive with the person while you are developing the relationship and getting to know each other better. However start to commit yourself to the person untill after the first phase passed and you are seeing each other more clearly.
If you are just nice, accomodating and agreeable with your partner, always going along with what your partner wants and never disagreeing or requiring your partner to accomodate you, you will unintentionally teach that person learn not to sensitive or respectful to you. Dissappointments, hurts, frustrations, irritation and anger will fester inside of you and eventually poison you to the relationship.
Your potential partner needs to get to know you, so be visible, open and honest yourself from the beginning. If you start a relationship hiding and pretending, you can't really trust and fully enjoy the relationship. You'll haunted by the fear that the person not like or accept you if he/she discover s what you really like and you will be insecure in the relationship. If you are open, honest and visible about who and how you are , some people will like you and some people will not. But the feelings towards you and acceptance of you by those who do like you will be solid and real.
"If you and your partner are good match, it can be easy to have long term fulfilling, relationship. If you are bad match it can be impossible"
2 comments:
you have been blogging about relationships lately! I wonder...
urrmmmm~~anything wrong with me????
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